Being asked for advice can be flattering. But it can also mean we are constantly in rescue mode. And we’re not really doing the other person any favours. The other person has limited buy in to our solution and very little growth or learning. Note though.. Listening, asking questions, being curious.. It’s hard.. much much harder than saying our piece.
When we believe we’re the sole architects of our success, we tend to be ruder, more selfish, and more likely to interrupt others. This is especially true in the face of setbacks and criticism.
We often think that being better at something means a total overhaul of what we are doing. But in reality – a tweak here or there is often enough to change the trajectory for the better.
It’s like a fleeting dream, that at the time felt so very significant; upon waking, you are just left with a whiff of something important that you’ve missed.
And the good news, is that it doesn’t need to be about siting cross legged and humming “ommm”. Both meditation and mindfulness are now packaged in many different ways. Without doubt, there will be a style and approach that suits you and your lifestyle.
It’s interesting what the HBR article says around why people don’t take the time to do this..The usual excuse is a lack of time, but often it’s because we don’t want to see what is already there. The reality is that it is rare that anyone else is going to do this for you. Definitely a case of what you put in you get out.
Often when we think of changing something significant, we think in terms of big bold goals (remember that saying – big, hairy, audacious goal?).. However
Every single successful person I have ever spoken to cites learning more from failure than from easy success. But perfection, by its very nature doesn’t allow for those bumps or squiggles.
There is something lovely about being able to draw a line in the sand, reset and start again. Of course you can do this at any time during the year, but there’s something special about the down time of the Christmas period that lends itself to a bit of introspection and reflection.
There is a significant body of research on this.. it works! The being clear on your goals/dreams, the public accountability and most importantly – the acknowledgement and celebration of the journey and progress.
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