Christmas parties should be fun for all. They should be a celebration of the end of a year, and of all the (hopefully) hard work that has gone before.
These team adventures are done completely in isolation of real life. They’re the brainwave of the poor sucker who is in charge of organising an event. They seem fun, and get the team out of the office for the day, but….
Perfectionism isn’t just having a preference for high standards – it’s being dogged about not accepting anything less than perfection which can be debilitating.
In some cases, the person causing the conflict is just not pleasant. And will go out of their way to cause conflict. It is much rarer, but if you have someone who intent on wrecking havoc, it’s a deeper conversation about whether that person is a good match for the organisation. And if the organisation has no intention of resolving it, then it is a question for you as to whether the organisation is a good fit for you.
No one really wants to see either end of the spectrum of office romance .. That is, the loved up version or the sighing deeply and slamming door version. Keep your social life and your romantic life outside work. This includes when you are out of work but still at work functions.
You can do this with any sort of change. You can also use language that reflects your belief around the sort of person you want to be.. “I am so the sort of person who drinks a lot of coffee, and so takes a keep cup wherever I can.”